The divorce process can easily be the most overwhelming time in anyone’s life. From trying to navigate the complexities of emotions to keeping everything stable for your family, it is often very overwhelming. Taking care of your mental and emotional well-being helps you forge ahead in a much healthier and empowered way. Here are some ways you can take care of yourself during such transitions.
Coming to Terms with Your Emotions
First and foremost in taking control of your emotional life is to learn to accept all those feelings associated with divorce: the sadness, the anger, the relief, or even guilt-all very normal reactions. Bottling these feelings inside or trying to deny them adds to increased stress. Permit yourself to feel each of these emotions and work through them at your pace. Whether through journaling or in quiet contemplation, feelings put into words can be a healthy release and a necessary avenue to healing.
Support from Family and Friends
This is the time when a support system is very important. Comfort from friends and family who understand you, and with whom all your interests are at heart, can provide a listening ear in times of need. Rather than distancing yourself from people, seek out those who can give you encouragement and advice. If shared with a trusted person, such difficulties can reassure one that they are not alone and may give them the reassurance needed to carry on.
Seeking Professional Help
Sometimes, emotional well-being requires more than care for oneself and support from friends and family.
Professional therapists or counselors in the field of divorce recovery could help with expert advice and techniques specialized for your situation. Consulting with a therapist may afford you a protected time to process your emotions and learn strategies for coping. If there are legal complications entangling your emotions, speaking with a family lawyer may also alleviate some of that stress by at least understanding and managing legal expectations.
Creating a Daily Routine
Divorce can knock life out of balance; hence, re-establishing a daily routine can help you bring normalcy back into your life. Simple things-like going to bed and getting up at approximately the same time, exercising, or setting aside time for relaxation-can build a structured environment in what otherwise may be a period of chaos. The little routines will keep you anchored and give you a sense of stability and direction as you forge ahead each day.
Taking Care of Your Physical Health
Physical well-being is strongly coupled with emotional well-being. The stress, sadness, or anxiety depresses the body, making one feel lethargic or non-focused. On the other hand, some physical activities that one enjoys, such as walking, yoga, or dancing, go a long way in fighting depression. This is because physical movements release endorphins, which may help improve mood and energy. Lastly, don’t forget the basics-eating healthy food and getting enough sleep go a long way in keeping you mentally resilient.
Finding Healthier Outlets for Stress
Since stress is usually at an all-time high during divorce, finding healthy outlets for such stress is paramount.
Meditation, art, or any new hobby can be quite relieving. Apply deep breathing techniques and mindfulness exercises that help you keep your stress to a minimum while it’s happening. In this way, you are channeling your energy into positive actions rather than allowing stress to build up.
Setting Boundaries with Your Ex-Spouse
Whereas it may be enticing for numerous reasons to remain overly connected with your ex, it is crucial that you establish some boundaries. You should try to reach a prerogative on when and how you communicate, especially when children are involved. By setting boundaries, you are giving yourself space to heal while building a healthier environment for all involved. It is also recommended to talk to your family lawyer who can create a detailed plan both parties can agree to adhere to.
Remind yourself that divorce is only a transition-it is not an end in itself. Allow yourself to dream about a future in which you are whole and happy again. Small goals for the coming months or years can help you begin to shift your thoughts away from your past and onto new possibilities. You will find strength, resilience, and a fresh sense of self one day at a time. Divorce is never easy, but if you do things correctly, you should emerge from it stronger in your emotional health.
Bob Duncan is the lead writer and partner on ConversationsWithBianca.com. A passionate parent, he’s always excited to dive into the conversation about anything from parenting, food & drink, travel, to gifts & more!