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So I’m sailing, yeah I’m sailing on / I’m moving, yeah I’m moving on / Sail on, sail on, sail on, sail on– Bad Brains

Moving… Whether it’s moving neighbourhood, country, house, or moving on from friendships that don’t fit us anymore, jobs, school, loves that have run its course, family that treat us poorly etc. we all have to do it at some point or another. Moving into new situations, environments, or on to new trains of thought can be daunting, overwhelming and just plain scary but… it can also be exciting too! It’s the way you choose to look at things. Instead of resisting the change, try to embrace it.

Most of the times we will choose to get moving for our own growth; sometimes though we’ll find ourselves in situations where we feel like we are pushed or forced to move on—I like to see it as someone else helping us with a little push along with our growth. If you find yourself in the latter category, as I have a handful of times in the past year—which I happen to be experiencing right now in my life in fact—the best piece of advice I can give you is from a saying my mum always told me: where ever you go, there you are. Let me explain…

You can never work out why people do what they do unless you are that person (I find even sometimes they don’t even know why though) so instead of trying to work out the puzzle of why and how it happened (which can drive you a little nutty and make you a lot sad) it’s time to “be like the water” as Bruce Lee said (see clip below). Get your flow on.

Sometimes in life—a lot if you’re how I used to be—we don’t like ourselves. We don’t have self-love. We move from one thing to the next hoping that it will fulfil our need and desire to be loved, accepted, or a part of something and ultimately experience happiness. The one thing though that most overlook (sometimes by accident or others by choice, hello denial! ha… ha) is that it all starts with our feelings and attitudes towards ourselves. If we are unhappy with ourselves no matter where we move or what friendships and relationships we find ourselves engaged in we’ll still be inherently unhappy. And, once the shiny newness of moving and our new friendships wears off we can find ourselves with a case of the sads again.

Moving your physical location or surrounding yourself with new friends and loves does not change who you are. It can definitely have an influence on you (hopefully for the better) but really how you treat others and your actions show how you feel about yourself. For any real lasting happiness you need to make peace with yourself. To a certain extent I believe I’ve finally found that… I’m smart enough to realise that life is never perfect, I know they’ll be more bumps on the road and many more moves ahead (hopefully intercontinental) but having committed to working on myself these past few years has really brought me to a wonderful place where I feel I have the tools and capacity to “be like the water.”

So, if you’re like me and you’re finding your life in upheaval mode (again) and you’re on the move: ride it and rule it! Stay positive! 99.99999% of the time better things are ahead. Keep your eyes on the road, yourself in the present moment and your heart and mind open.

I leave you with some thoughts for your day & some words of wisdom from Ms. Beyonce & Co.:

“Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it’s better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.”
~unknown

“Some people think that it’s holding on that makes one strong; sometimes it’s letting go.”
~unknown

“I’m going to smile and make you think I’m happy, I’m going to laugh, so you don’t see me cry, I’m going to let you go in style, and even if it kills me – I’m going to smile.”
~unknown

Forward ho! lovelies! I’m off to pack my bags :)

PS- Always take the high road in any situation and circumstance… take a deep breath, smile, find perspective and squeeze out every ounce of compassion you have and put it into the mix, shake off the negative and keep moving forward >>>>>>>>

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